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Stephi Stewart
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Nice & Assertive
vs.
Just Plain Nice
What I am professing, based on my experience both in the fashion
industry and with coaching brides, is this:
a woman who is "Nice and
Assertive" commands a magic touchwhich leads to far greater results
than the average "nice"girl will ever achieve... and she is usually
extremelywell liked (and respected) too!
Hmmm...something to think
about.
So let me compare and contrast plain old "nice" vs. this magic
"nice and assertive" approach:
First, let's say you're being a "nice"
girl. You meet with a wedding photographer who tells you that his price
is X, that he keeps the negatives, charges you X forre prints etc. Now being
a "nice" girl you simply say,
"Okay" I guess this is how things work with
wedding photographers and I certainly don't want to create any
conflict
because I want him to think I'm nice, so I guessI'll just have to accept his
terms...
after all, theyare printed on his brochure."
Wrong, wrong,
wrong!
You must understand that everything is negotiable and
younever should pay more than you have to for anything! Theonly thing
you'll get out of the previous exchange is the emotional confirmation that
you're a nice girl and a big
fat surprise bill when you see how much the
reprints aregoing to cost you after your wedding! Bottom line:
Youbetter
be rich, if you're going to be nice!
Now on the other hand, let's say
you're being "nice and assertive" girl and you're meeting with this same
photographer. You know that you are the one in charge because you're
spending the money, so you "tell" the
photographer that you really like his
work (being nice),but that if he wants your business, he's going to have
to agree to your terms which include giving you thenegatives (being
assertive).
Of course, you're always ready to "walk" if the
photographer isn't willing to meet your needs, because
you won't settle for
anything less and know you'lleventually find a capable photographer who will
indeed
meet your expectations.
If you're thinking this sounds too
scary, let me tell you it's really not! I've taught so many women how to
do this and not only is it far easier than you'd ever imagine to simply
"negotiate", but it's also fun! Just
imagine how great you'll feel each time
you save a fewhundred, or even a few thousand dollars simply by
communicating to these vendors at an unconscious level that you're in charge,
not them!
I mean, if you want to be a nice girl and get average
results, be my guest...but if you want to learn more
about how to negotiate
like a goddess and getoutstanding results like I did, I invite you to check
out my ebook which teaches in much more detail how tosuccessfully plan and
achieve your dream wedding on a
budget (revealing all the techniques I used
to saveover $10,000 off my own wedding expenses).